Thursday, October 9, 2008

Personal Introspection

Every 6 months the leaders of our church gather together for what we call General Conference. It is a time to hear from the leaders directly and to understand what the issues for the church are today. There are many sessions with several discourses given. There is a session where the priesthood members of the church get together. In this meeting the President of the church (also known as the church's Prophet) gave a discourse where he stated that we should:

Learn what we should learn.
Do what we should do.
Be what we should be.

President Thomas S. Monson
October 2008 General Conference Priesthood Session

Over the past several days this message has stuck with me. It is not just a message about learning, doing and being with regards to spritual matters. It is a message that can be applied to all aspects of our life. For me it opened my eyes to some things and what I need to be doing. I tried to determine what I should be learning, doing and being when I realized I had to define who I am first. I am several things among them:

  • Husband
  • Father
  • Son
  • Grandson
  • Friend
  • Neighbor
  • Employee
  • Co-worker

The list goes on and on as it does for all of us. So now I have defined who I am, so what to do about the three statements above? Well the most logical thing is a list for each. One way to do this list is to break it down by each adjective above and list out what I should learn, do and be as each one. I am in that process now. The order you see above is my prioritized order of who I am. A couple of examples as a husband I should:

  • Learn to be better at the relationship with my wife. Learn about how to listen to her better and work with her.
  • Do more with her and work along side her in this life more than I have, that means sometimes doing things she wants to do even if I don't.
  • Be an example to others of what a husband should be.

I'm sure there are many things I will learn as this process continues and I know that it will make me a better man for doing it.


Devyl Gyrl said...

This is something that everyone should do, whether they relate it to God and the Church or not.

We all need to figure out how to make ourselves better people, and constantly strive to that greatness. This does not require perfection in life ... it does not require a high-paying job, a fancy car, or million-dollar digs. It simply requires us to hold ourselves to a higher standard in our personal interactions and communications.

Kudos to you ...

Anonymous said...

This is a great post. Devyl is right, we should all be working to make ourselves better people, spouses and parents instead of getting wrapped up in our own nonsense!

N&E5 said...

Great idea. A personal inventory. Oftentimes we avoid the mirror for fear of something we will find looking back.

This forces one to confront themselves head-on and can ameliorate denial which is such an addictive defense mechanism.